Trudy Haseley

Trudy Haseley, beloved wife, mother, grandmother, and friend, passed away peacefully at her home in Indian Land, SC, on July 24, 2025, at the age of 77. She had battled heart disease, kidney disease, and dementia in her final years. While she will certainly be missed, her family rejoices at her healing in heaven thanks to her Christian faith.

Trudy is survived by her husband, Daniel Haseley; daughter Jodi Foxx (Todd); son Jeff Haseley (Beth); grandchildren Nowlan, Clare, and Evan Haseley; step-grandchildren Claire and Colby Foxx; brothers-in-law Doyle Jones, Carl Haseley, and Steve Haseley (Cindy); as well as several nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her mother, Ruth Shoopinsky, her aunt and uncle Esther and Earl Towriss, her sister Sharon Towriss Fales, and her sisters-in-law Bonnie Jones and Mary Ann Haseley, all of whom she is now reunited with in her heavenly home.

Trudy was born to Ruth Shoopinsky in 1947 in Penn Yan, NY and spent most of her childhood living with her maternal aunt Esther Towriss and her husband Earl Towriss in Rochester, NY. Esther and Earl were beloved parent figures to her, and Trudy considered their daughter Sharon to be her sister. When she was eight years old in 1955, Trudy had successful open-heart surgery to repair a heart defect present since birth. Even in her final weeks, doctors marveled at the length of her life given the seriousness of her heart defect.

Trudy graduated from Greece Olympia High School in 1965, the same high school that both of her children also attended. Following graduation, she began working at Eastman Kodak Company, where she met the love of her life, Dan Haseley, whom she married on August 16, 1969. They shared nearly 56 years of marriage and set a beautiful example for their children and grandchildren of a loving, devoted marriage.

Trudy and Dan welcomed their daughter Jodi in 1971 and their son Jeff in 1973. They built a life rooted in family and church, and were active members of Messiah Lutheran Church in Rochester, NY. Trudy especially enjoyed participating in the church choir, where she frequently sang solos in various anthems and was known for her annual tradition of singing O Holy Night at each of the three Christmas Eve services. In addition to singing with the choir, Trudy was the chairperson of several church committees over the years, including those that celebrated the church’s anniversaries, and loved to prepare dishes for the Men’s Breakfasts. She was an excellent cook and thankfully took the time to create several cookbooks for her children so that her favorite recipes could continue to be family traditions. Trudy and Dan cherished their friends at Messiah and enjoyed spending time with them, especially the group who called themselves “The Out to Dinner Bunch.”

Trudy worked as a secretary for many years at the University of Rochester, most notably in the Medical School, supporting the Psychiatry Residency program. There, she coordinated all things non-clinical, including admission applications to the residency program and the rotation schedules for the residents. She was a valuable contributor to this program and was proud of her work in establishing systems that allowed the program to run efficiently.

In 2008, Trudy and Dan chose to relocate to Indian Land, SC, to be closer to their children and grandchildren. Trudy worked at Charlotte Christian School in the admission office, and then worked as a church secretary at Living Saviour Lutheran Church, which is where Trudy and Dan found their church home. Trudy again enjoyed singing in the church choir and volunteering to provide dishes for various events. Just as was true at Messiah Lutheran Church, Trudy and Dan found their closest friends in their church community and appreciated their support as Trudy’s health declined, especially from their “Lupper” friends.

Trudy adored her role as Nana to Nowlan, Clare, and Evan. Her home always welcomed them with a freezer full of ice cream, bikes to ride around the neighborhood, cookies to be baked, and trips to the neighborhood pool. Memories that were only shared with Nana and her grandkids happened every Friday when she would pick them up from school to take them to lunch and a special activity. Occasionally, they would let Papa share in the fun. Beloved traditions like the Haseley Christmas Cookie Decorating Day will live on with them as a tribute to Nana. She loved them and they love her.

In Trudy’s last years, she found her greatest joy in spending time with her family, especially with Dan. In her final weeks, she frequently greeted him with “My hero!” and “The love of my life!” when he entered the room. Her family finds great comfort in the fact that dementia never stole her knowledge of them. She may have forgotten many other things and asked some questions repeatedly, but she never forgot their names. They thank God for preserving this knowledge in her mind.

A celebration of Trudy’s life will be held on Saturday, August 16 at 2 pm at Living Saviour Lutheran Church in Charlotte, NC, with the family receiving friends at 1 pm until the time of the service. The service falls on Trudy and Dan’s 56th wedding anniversary, making it a perfect date to celebrate her life and their years together. Those unable to attend in person are invited to attend via livestream using this link https://www.youtube.com/@livingsaviourlutheranchurch

The family wishes to express their heartfelt thanks to the care team at MSA Hospice, who went out of their way to make Trudy’s final week comfortable for her and manageable for her family.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to either Messiah Lutheran Church in Rochester, NY or Living Saviour Lutheran Church in Charlotte, NC in Trudy’s honor.